Finally!  I have come to the realization that men really are not “wired” like women; unfortunately my revelation was not soon enough to salvage past relationships.  I have often tried to dissect the male’s way of thinking but always come up short as result of my female inheritances.

For instances, the statement “I want to see you” lead one to believe that the person actually wants to “see” you, maybe watch a movie,  talk politics and even play a game of bowling { Wee game of course}.  However, I have learned that’s not the case with {some} men.  If a man say “I want to see you” that can mean a variety of things so you better have a good understanding of what his intentions are, if you do not want to find yourself  in a compromising situation.

What happen to the old saying, “say what you mean and mean what you say”?  Women must learn to understand what a man is” really” trying to say below I will give you a few examples, so read carefully.

I don’t want you to go, but if you must go I respect your decision” –I want to breakup but don’t know how to tell you;

You don’t have to worry, she is not my type” – I can’t wait for you to leave so I can get her number

That’s not what I meant to say” – That’s what he meant to say, just don’t want to hurt your feelings or argue.

“I need space” – He is interested in someone else but want to hold on to you just in case it don’t work out.

Ladies, I am sure you can relate to the aforementioned phrases. Think about it, has a man ever told you “I don’t want to get married” and six (6) months later marry a female he dated only three (3) months.  What he was really trying to say is that he did not have any intentions of marrying you and guess what? He will not marry you.

I know you are saying, “He really likes me, he takes me out often and call me every day”.   I have found that men can be cunning when pursuing what they think they want but once they get the prize, they become complacent and gradually lose interest.  What will it take? How can you understand a person that never really say what he means or mean what he says?  However, ladies I must admit sometime we share the blame in that we only hear what we want to hear.  Yeah, I said it…

It is evident that women are truly confused when pursuing a man? What does he want? Does he really like me? Will this relationship have the opportunity to grow or will it just crash and burn?  These are some of the many questions women of all ages, race and creed are desperately seeking the answer to.

I am of the opinion, that if men would provide insight to what it takes to maintain their interest maybe, just maybe the sanctity of marriage will have true meaning again.  And for non-married couples, the term “committed relationship” would display a guarantee of an exclusive partnership.

I guess by now it is evident that I want to see long-term relationships again; and most importantly I want to see men pursue women for “real relationships” and not just as an object of their “sexual” desire.

Am I wishful thinking?? Is true Love a thing of the past?  What do you think? I want to hear your comments.



  1. May 11, 2012 at 12:25 am

    I see where your coming from. I see this all the time whether it’s my friends, or just people around me. Personally, I have faith that true love exists. I believe there’s someone for everyone, you just need to find the right person that makes you feel…whole (Is that weird?). But now days, you don’t hear about love, just lust. I don’t know what happened to this generation, but i’m gonna stick to some wise words and find true love. Because “Love is just a word until you find someone to give it a definition” ❤

  2. May 11, 2012 at 2:13 am

    Thanks for stopping by my blog! I hope you’ll be a regular reader! The issue of love is quite complex. I think true love exists, but I think how we define it changes as we get older and more experienced. I think too often we think it’s like how it is in the movies. But real, genuine, true love is grounded in friendship, respect and trust. And it all really starts with truly loving yourself first. Too many people depend on others to make them happy and I think you have to be happy with yourself first, then truly love will follow. 🙂

  3. kimberly B said,

    May 11, 2012 at 2:37 am

    OMG…. I love this

  4. LaToya said,

    May 11, 2012 at 11:32 pm

    I love this! You lay things out that we as female are evaluating with these men. I am calling you the female Steve Harvey! Great blog! Keep them coming! 

  5. judithatwood said,

    May 12, 2012 at 9:05 pm

    Hi! Thanks for stopping by the blog, and for the like. Welcome to the family. I am looking forward to reading your comments. If you’d like, please find my Friends page and tell us a little about you and your blog, including URL. And again, welcome!

    • May 12, 2012 at 9:11 pm

      Thanks for welcoming me to your Friends page I will most definitely visit.

      • judithatwood said,

        May 12, 2012 at 9:12 pm

        That’s the spirit! The best way to get readers is to comment on other bloggers’ blogs.

  6. jolynproject said,

    May 13, 2012 at 3:39 am

    True love exists but unfortunately many people are searching for it with others instead of getting it from within. Once you have it within, it does not matter if a mate is there or not because complete peace is there and of course, you’ll attract tons of mates and have the pleasure of picking and choosing instead of chasing and displaying oneself like a material item that has to be bought for affection, attention and love. I am loving your blog by the way. Thanks for inviting me.

  7. taremin said,

    May 14, 2012 at 3:15 am

    Thank you for visiting my blog! I do think true love exists, but sometimes we have our own expectations and standards that are a little too high for reality. And that’s why many relationships don’t last (in my opinion). It seems like you have a great blog going! I’ll be coming back around!


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