I was approached by a gentleman who asked me the question, “What makes you happy”, being that I was caught off guard I could not provide a quick response. So I slowly responded, “Living – Living makes me happy”. The gentleman smiled and said, “I know you are thankful to be alive and/or living but what other than that makes you happy”.  As I slowly walked away it resonated that I really don’t know what makes me happy, and I could not honestly answer that question. The remainder of the day I ponder the question, hoping to find an answer–but other than the things I am thankful for  i.e. life, health & strength and family, I don’t know what makes me happy.  So that I would not be in this situation again I decided to focus on what makes me happy and I came up with the following list, these are all things that makes my heart smile:

  1. Spending time with my son when he is in a good mood;
  2. Seeing my mother with a smile on her face & happy;
  3. Knowing my father is healthy;
  4. Seeing Aniya and hearing the pitter-patter of her little feet;
  5. Spending time with my sister & my nieces & everyone is in a good place;
  6. Being loved—truly loved by someone who fulfills my highest good;
  7. Having a girls night, eating appetizers having mix drinks as I analyzing relationshipsJ ; and
  8. Being able to pay my bills, have occasional shopping sprees and still have money in the bank.

I later conversed with the gentleman, this time I was hoping he would ask me the question again.  And just like I had wished, he asked me again, he said, “now are you ready to tell me what makes you happy”, and like a little girl at Christmas I went down my list of things that made me happy.  Feeling good that I could finally answer the question, this man turned to me and said, “damn, what I really was hoping you would tell me was how you like to be caressed or “made love” to.  He went on to say, “based on your answer I take it that the “presence” of a man is low on your list of priorities, or more importantly you have never really been loved or in a loving relationship, and the main goal of the man is to make you happy”.

WOW!!!—I was left speechless…..  What’s happening to me? Am I oblivious to the fact that I have never really been in a loving relationship, so much so that I am in denial?  What do you think?

Now, my question to you is → Do You Know What Makes You Happy???

** Please post your response, I want to see your answers…….


Different Place

Today I arrived in Rochester MN – My travel was good but I had one misfortune, the airport lost myluggage.  I was so caught up in the fact that I had made a decision and followed it through that I have yet to get as angry as I usually get.  I know it is crazy but it feels good to be in another state, with a change of scenery.  Although, I hope they find my luggage soon before I come back to reality.